Having done this work a long time, I have been on a never ceasing journey to not only maintain freedom, but also to help men find freedom from their sexual brokenness. Pornography, compulsive sexual behaviors, and broken sexuality all work together to destroy a man’s image of himself. Am I a pervert? Am I son of God? Where do I fit? Why am I such a failure at managing my sexuality? All of these questions slowly whittle away at a man’s belief of who he is and to Whom he belongs. Ultimately, the questions arise, “Where is God? Why won’t He help? Has He forgotten me?”
Oftentimes, in an attempt to “clean up” a man will begin to fill his life with tools. These tools are meant to help him in his efforts to find purity and freedom. Some help. Some are necessary to provide accountability through the journey. However, ultimately use of these tools alone, only leads to “white knuckling” through life. Hanging on tight to whatever moments of success he can find. Ultimately, focusing on the tools alone, leads to more failure. He must begin to focus on the deeper brokenness of his heart. In John, Chapter 8, we find in verse 32, these words “Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free." That means if we don’t have freedom, there must still be some lies in our heart.
These lies can tell us things about our identity, our purpose, our inability to be free. Satan’s desire is to see us fail. Our Father’s desire is to see us believe our purpose and identity in Him. One leads to failure, the other to freedom. If you’re still struggling, you’re not a failure; you just haven’t fully trusted the truths of who you are and the truths of your freedom. If you have accepted Christ as your Savior, then you are a Son of the King with all of the rights and inheritances and privileges of the Kingdom. Use the tools, but don’t forget to keep looking for Truth; He’s there. He will help you see those things that hinder your freedom.
Questions to Ponder:
Oftentimes, in an attempt to “clean up” a man will begin to fill his life with tools. These tools are meant to help him in his efforts to find purity and freedom. Some help. Some are necessary to provide accountability through the journey. However, ultimately use of these tools alone, only leads to “white knuckling” through life. Hanging on tight to whatever moments of success he can find. Ultimately, focusing on the tools alone, leads to more failure. He must begin to focus on the deeper brokenness of his heart. In John, Chapter 8, we find in verse 32, these words “Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free." That means if we don’t have freedom, there must still be some lies in our heart.
These lies can tell us things about our identity, our purpose, our inability to be free. Satan’s desire is to see us fail. Our Father’s desire is to see us believe our purpose and identity in Him. One leads to failure, the other to freedom. If you’re still struggling, you’re not a failure; you just haven’t fully trusted the truths of who you are and the truths of your freedom. If you have accepted Christ as your Savior, then you are a Son of the King with all of the rights and inheritances and privileges of the Kingdom. Use the tools, but don’t forget to keep looking for Truth; He’s there. He will help you see those things that hinder your freedom.
Questions to Ponder:
- What were your beliefs about your sexuality growing up?
- How do you think God views you regarding your sexuality?
- Does God love you the same before and after failure?
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